On Country Music and Robots

December 31, 2012 at 11:06 am (music)

There are several funny things here. One: a country band called The Eli Young Band made a video for their song “Say Goodnight” that features a young woman hitting a robot with her car and then falling in love with it.

The song is a fairly typical pop country song, and the video is not the most imaginative thing I’ve ever seen, but it’s cute and fun and I think their intentions in making it were good and charming.

But there’s a funnier thing here. Country fans (and I’m generalizing here, sure) often like their music a certain way and their videos a certain way- there’s a comfort to how formulaic it can be, and a lovely use of creativity in what they can do within the country music “rules”. But overall, there’s not been a ton of innovation to the genre, so it’s super fucking hilarious when a country band then makes a country video about robots.

I thought it might be even more fun to highlight some of my favorite YouTube comments from “Saying Goodnight”. (Note: I tried to get through all 2400 comments but had to stop after about 1500 or so.) Ahemmm, here we go!

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Ask Gynomite!

December 30, 2012 at 3:32 pm (ask gynomite, Uncategorized)

In her former life, Emily “Gynomite” Gordon was a couples and family therapist licensed in 2 1/2 states.  In this life, she’s a freelance fighter of your emotional woes with Ask Gynomite.  Write her at askgynomite@gmail.com- all emails stay confidential.  Today, Gynomite takes on how to help a relative who is struggling with mental health issues.

Hi, Emily – I found your blog after hearing your interview with Pete Holmes – you seem like a really thoughtful person, and I’m hoping maybe you’ll have some advice for me.

A relative of mine (let’s call him Jim) is in his mid-20s, and has been deeply depressed for about five years now. He lives with his parents, barely leaves his room, self-harms and compulsively shops online.

His parents pay his bills and indulge him, because they’re afraid of his angry outbursts. I heard that he shot a piece of furniture once, probably during an outburst; his parents have said all of the (many) guns in the house are locked up, but I don’t think there should be any weapons in that house at all. Jim does see a therapist fairly regularly, and recently switched psychiatrists; I think his meds compliance has been spotty. No one in the family knows what meds he’s on, and he’s been through spells of heavy drinking and sedative use.

His parents are, in my opinion, both living with serious mental illness, and I think they’re in denial about how serious Jim’s condition is. There is some communication between his parents and his therapist, and the therapist has suggested inpatient treatment, but no one ever takes initiative to make that happen.

I live across the country, and I feel helpless and stuck. I’ve struggled with depression, but never anything close to what’s going on with Jim. (Honestly, I don’t know what’s going on. He’s so angry, it makes me think there might be more than depression going on?) I want him to move on with his life, but he seems trapped in this toxic household. I’ve tried talking to him about my concerns, but he cuts me off angrily; his parents do the same.

What do you think Jim needs? Inpatient treatment? Moving out (he can’t seem to hold a job, but I really think he needs to leave that household)? What can I do to help him?

 

Hi there. It is heartbreaking to deal with a sick family member. If your relative had some sort of heart condition, we wouldn’t be discussing any of this- Jim would be in treatment somewhere, inpatient or out, because he would want to be well. Mental illness is so complicated and messy, because often people don’t realize how sick they are; it’s a lot of work to get better and stay better; and often the coping skills people develop to deal with mental illness, while harmful, are more comfortable than getting better.

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Gynomite’s Reading Room!

December 29, 2012 at 12:54 pm (gynomite's reading room, Uncategorized)

I loved this piece in NYT about Jerry Seinfeld. You will too.

Nice Guys of OKCupid dismantles the profiles of men who say that they’re “nice guys” in the “friendzone”, but also say things about how most women are stupid and should be raped.

Prince’s tribute to Dick Clark is kinda fantastic.

Here’s my review of the Doctor Who Christmas special for TV.com!

Salon asks if a black director could have made Django Unchained, and has a pretty smart response to the question. My favorite part of the article:

Tarantino’s willingness to expend his Hollywood capital to make such a film implicitly implores white people to try to use their relative position of privilege to fight that privilege where they can. That’s a welcome — if unstated — message. While history (for instance, the civil rights movement or the 2012 election) certainly proves people of color don’t need “white saviors” to come to their “rescue”, that truism doesn’t negate white people’s moral obligation to fight White Privilege where they see it — even if that privilege is benefiting them personally.

Two things to know about this Slate article. One: Donald Duck is nearly worshipped in Sweden. Two: There were racist parts to this 1932 Donald Duck cartoon.

The most read articles on Wikipedia in 2012 are pretty boring.

My Dad made this video of Aaron, Ed, and myself welcoming our audience to The Meltdown last week.

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The hottening.

December 29, 2012 at 12:29 pm (pop culture)

I just saw a photo of Sharlto Copley, the dude who was a friend of Neill Blomkamp, the dude whose life was changed when he was cast as the lead in Neill’s breakout movie, District 9.

This is what Sharlto looked like in 2009, discussing District 9 at Comic-Con.

220px-SharltoCopleyCCJuly09This is what he looks like now.

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Curvy.

December 23, 2012 at 11:06 am (Uncategorized, women's issues)

I recently read this article at NY Mag about how pretty much every female celebrity is now considered “curvy“. The article discussed how calling every woman that makes the term meaningless, and that the term “curvy” should still have meaning.

Sure sure, I agree with all that. But I also am one of the millions of women who is completely and totally obsessed with the concept of curvy celebrities. Why? Let’s discuss.

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Gynomite’s Egotistic Reading Room!

December 18, 2012 at 3:07 pm (gynomite's reading room)

Here are a bunch of links about stuff I do.

Paste Magazine named The Indoor Kids one of the best entertainment podcasts this year!

I wrote this for The FW, and in it, I guess the plotlines of made for TV holiday movies based on their promotional photos.

Splitsider said nice things about The Meltdown with Jonah and Kumail!

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Gynomite’s Reading Room!

December 17, 2012 at 1:40 pm (gynomite's reading room)

Remember Balloon Boy? Well, he continues to be metaphorically hiding and pretending to be in a balloon, as he is now fronting a metal band called Heene Boyz Band. Also, he’s 12. Yes, you can watch one of their videos.

Consumer psychology is the study of how people spend and what makes them spend more, and when I was in grad school, we considered it the enemy. It feels evil to take the things we’d be learning about the psyche and use them to make people buy more shit… even if the field pays a shit ton. So while I would never go into such a field, I do have a lot of fun reading articles about the ways that stores manipulate us into buying more. Here are a few for you!

One of my favorite ever interviews on The Indoor Kids is up today- Edmund and Danielle McMillen, stars of Indie Game: The Movie, and a couple that works together, games together, and has fun together.

I really liked this rant/essay about narcissism versus self-esteem from Psychology Today.

Find out where Peter Jackson’s cameo is in The Hobbit!

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On monsters, mental illness, and getting help.

December 15, 2012 at 11:18 am (psychology)

In the wake of the horrible shootings in Connecticut, the people who aren’t screaming about gun control are instead gnashing their teeth to find out about the shooter’s mental state. “People say he was deeply disturbed and remote. What warning signs were there? Were the parents unsure of who to reach out to for help? How could this have been prevented?”

I’m not going to talk about guns at all here, because even though I grew up with guns, they are not my expertise. I am, however, a trained mental health professional, and in my career, I have worked with severely mentally ill people. I have authorized involuntary hospitalizations, done crisis counseling, testified in court about the mental state of a client, and evaluated the homicidal/suicidal behaviors of clients in varying degrees of distress. I have been attacked once and threatened many many times. I liked being in the trenches, which is probably why I’m not a therapist anymore. I have absolutely no idea of this murderer’s mental state, and neither do any of us. But I do know about mental illness and getting help.

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Gynomite’s Reading Room

December 11, 2012 at 4:19 pm (gynomite's reading room, Uncategorized)

Jimmy Kimmel is doing genius things with confirmation bias these days. You should check it out.

Behold, you can now read Lena Dunham’s incredibly expensive book proposal in its entirety.

Please enjoy Frank Ocean covering Fake Plastic Trees.

Gawker covers the dumbest memes of the year, as well as the best ones.

When you google “dying grandparent”, Christina Aguilera is what comes up in the image search. Here’s why.

Storage Wars is fake, and now there’s a lawsuit that hopes to prove it. [cricket sounds]

To cut all the pop culture, here are the most important archaeological discoveries of 2012.

Holy shit, please click on this to see the Grumpy Cat Russian Nesting Doll that the talented Cat Solen made for Deanna!

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Always the bride, never the bridesmaid.

December 8, 2012 at 11:21 am (relationships, women's issues)

I wrote this for another website but they ended up not running it, so here it is!

I am 33 years old and I’ve never been a bridesmaid. I was Maid of Honor in my sister’s wedding when I was in college, I was present at the handfasting ceremony of my high school girlfriend, I have taken a few girls to get abortions, but I’ve never been a bridesmaid. And today, for no reason at all, this started to bother me.

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