In her former life, Emily “Gynomite” Gordon was a couples and family therapist licensed in 2 1/2 states. In this life, she’s a freelance fighter of your emotional woes with Ask Gynomite. Write her at firstname.lastname@example.org- all emails stay confidential. Today, Gynomite takes on distrust in a relationship when there’s no real cause for it.
I’m in a relationship and I am always concerned that my boyfriend is going to cheat on me. He’s always been great, I have no reason to suspect him of cheating, and I’ve not really been cheated on before (other than in middle school, which I don’t think counts), but for some reason I am constantly suspicious of him. The end result is that I freak out on him for no reason. I’m writing you now because we recently had a huge fight because he lied to me about having (a totally work-related) lunch with two female coworkers because he thought I would freak out, and when it came out anyway, I did freak out because he lied to me, even though I understand why he did. What can I do?
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