In her former life, Emily “Gynomite” Gordon was a couples and family therapist licensed in 2 1/2 states. In this life, she’s a freelance fighter of your emotional woes with Ask Gynomite. Write her at firstname.lastname@example.org- all emails stay confidential. Today, Gynomite takes on catastrophizing, and once again, she does it by talking into a camera.
I have always had this problem but I never could correctly describe it until recently. I think I have a problem with”catastrophizing.” I am unsure if it is a scientific term but its on wikipedia. I constantly assume the worst possible outcome will happen. It’s why I am terrified of getting on a plane and why I worry constantly.
An example is when I hang out with this girl I would rather waste gas and drive her home (she doesnt live very close to me) than meet a halfway point because when she drives home I freak out about the prospect of a drunk driver hitting her or some other type of accident that could severely injure her or worse. I do this with most of my family members too if I know theyre driving and I can’t contact them.
I also do it with my myself. If i text someone, even a close friend, and they take a while to get back i am 100% positive (and at least as far as I know almost always 100% wrong after the fact) that this is because they don’t want to hang out with me anymore for whatever reason. I also will go to great lengths to conceal this or even give off the impression that I feel the opposite in most situations. It’s just how my mind works I suppose. I was just wondering if you had any advice on how to quell these seemingly meaningless worries, thanks a lot.