The men’s rights movement: is it gaining momentum, or is this just the new hot thing blogs like to write inflammatory posts about? YOU DECIDE. It’s a horrifying movement to read about either way!
A fun interview with Chris Kluwe, a badass human being and former Minnesota Viking.
In defense of gamers: it turns out everyone’s an asshole. A solid, if not depressing, read.
David Sedaris has a new essay in the New Yorker, and it’s about his sister who recently committed suicide. Read it.
Great piece in Pacific Standard about the commodification of cool in teenagers, sent to me by Neary.
This made me laugh so hard: Videogum wants to know what your pop culture Halloween costume is going to be.
A lovely interview with Kumail and myself from the floor of NYCC!
RuPaul as a next generation Oprah? Amen.
Another fine collection of photoshopped celebrities.
This is an at times well-written, at times insulting essay at Slate about how we’re sending the wrong message by teaching women that it’s their right as feminists to get hammered at parties. My biggest issue with it is that it’s addressed to just women, and not young men who get hammered and decide that no means yes. However, I also have trouble with the naive idea that a woman should feel safe in public even if she’s completely hammered and alone. That’s not a feminist issue, it’s just a safety issue. No one should feel safe hammered and alone in public. It’s not safe. I’ve always designated a buddy at parties- we always check in with each other throughout the night, and make sure the other person is coherent enough to make decisions before going home with someone random. (One method was making the other person sing “Eternal Flame” before they could skedaddle.) We didn’t do that because we were women, we did that because we were humans and didn’t want to assume we were ever safe while plastered. And you might say “Well, dudes don’t have to think about stuff like that” and really, they should, because way more men than women die from drunken antics, but for anyone, rendering yourself completely unaware of your surroundings is something we should do in safe situations. Period. Should we be able to trust that we won’t get raped in most situations? Sure.
Great Mario museum at IGN.com, walking you through the history of JumpMan.
This is a music video/commercial for Hot Pockets featuring Snoop Lion and Kate Upton. It’s way more bizarre than it sounds.
Bryan Cranston’s advice for actors is great advice for any creative field. If you’re doing it for the hope of a paycheck, you aren’t doing it.
What science says, and what it means.
Xenophobia, or entitled douchebags? These are actual complaints from people about their vacations.
What it means when various groups of people call you a slut. From VICE, of course.
Get Indoor Kids merchandise, complete with my and Kumail’s faces, here!
This woman, Jessie Kahnweiler, made a satirical film called “Meet My Rapist”, about how the experience of being raped affects her every day, even if she’s not constantly traumatized. It is funny and dark and I am still not sure all the emotions I feel about it. I suggest watching it and then reading this interview with Jessie.
Mental illness’ changing face in television, and how it’s (hopefully) help change stigma.
Food hacks. Dig it.
The CEO of Barilla Pasta got a bit homophobic last week, so Bertolli Pasta decided to respond with pro-gay ads. Awesomeness ensued.
I was featured on this week’s Harmontown episode in a discussion about morality…. and then we played D&D. Listen here!
L’Inconnue de la Seine: one of the creepiest things I’ve ever seen.
New Indoor Kids episode up today, with Jordan Morris joining us to discuss this console cycle, as a new one is about to kick into full swing!
I am fully and completely obsessed with this cover of Whitney Houston’s It’s Not Right, but It’s OK by CHVRCHES. You should be too.
And speaking of Feral Audio, I also write for their zine, No Information! $2.99 gets you five essays from me and others, including Neil Hamburger!
I was on a podcast called “Brief Interviews with the Opposite Sex”, helping a guy relate to his newly-teenage daughters. Boom.
This is a great collection of 21 completely bizarre moments in Disney history that I saw on Buzzfeed!
Jonathan Ferrell was a 24 year old black man who had recently moved to Charlotte NC when he got into a terrible car accident. After kicking out his back window to free himself, he walked to the nearest house for help, and the woman in the house called the police on him. The police shot him 10 time and killed him. Read this piece about “whistling Vivaldi”, or the things that “potentially dangerous minorities” do to show people they are non-threatening. (FYI, the officer has been charged with manslaughter A quote from this piece in Slate:
Just as wearing long johns is not a preventative measure against rape for women, affecting middle-class white behaviors is not a protective measure for people of color; it’s a talisman. In exerting any measure of control in signaling that we are not dangerous or violent or criminal, we are mostly assuaging the cognitive stress caused by constant management of social situations.
Science tattoos. Hot.
The Indoor Kids podcast is coming to the LA Podcast Festival on Sunday, October 6th! Come on down!
Playboy was going to publish, as part of their “dudes college handbook” a guide to consent. It turns out that was a hoax. We all wish that it wasn’t. Come on Playboy, I’ll help you write it!
Hi all! If you don’t follow me on Twitter, you wouldn’t know that I’ve been in Europe the last week or so, which is why I haven’t been blogging. But here’s a few fun things I’ve found online and in life in the past week!
I was interviewed by the lovely Claire Zulkey on her website!
This Mom wrote a post to teenage girls about how they should cover their bodies because boys can’t control themselves. She has three sons and one daughter, and holy shit, would I hate to be her daughter. An excerpt:
Will you trust me? There are boys out there waiting and hoping for women of character. Some young men are fighting the daily uphill battle to keep their minds pure, and their thoughts praiseworthy – just like you.
What about raising men of character, huh Mom? One Dad on HuffPo took offense to her post. This is his response, and here’s an excerpt:
But I will also tell my son that just because he sees a picture of a naked or half-naked or three-quarters naked or fully naked girl or woman or boy or man online, and just because he can’t “un-see” such a picture, that doesn’t mean he has ownership over that person, or that he has the right to shame that person, or that he has any idea of who she really is based on a photo or that it’s OK for her to be nothing more than a sex object to him. To borrow a phrase often used to justify this kind of sexism, she’s not “asking for it.”
Most importantly, it doesn’t mean that he suddenly sacrifices his own agency and self-control and morals and understanding of right and wrong and personal responsibility in the face of something that gets his hormones raging.
This is maybe one of my favorite things we’ve done in Rome- it’s the Capuchin Crypt. These monks decided to start making art out of the bones of monks who had passed away. They’ve made wall patterns, little angels, light fixtures, entire structures- all out of bones. It’s macabre and fascinating as hell. (We weren’t allowed to take pics, so here’s the Wikipedia)
So in Portland, there’s this fun educational rock band called The Digits, and I was lucky enough to be interviewed by them and participate in one of their music videos! Enjoy, they’re doing great work up there!
Ok, and here are a couple of pics from Paris, including one of us and Vince Gilligan, who we randomly saw at the Louvre.
I was fascinated by this blog post from porn actress Kayden Kross, sent to me by Eli Olsberg, about some of the realities of the industry. She includes financial advice, tax advice, gut check advice, and a million other things. My favorite point:
Do not ever lose your sense of discomfort. If you don’t want to work with a certain performer or do a certain type of scene, do not do it. ‘No’ is the first and last thing that you have in this industry. If you give that up you will hate it.
The creator of Keurig single-cup coffee brewing, on his legacy: ”I feel kind of guilty. The world’s changed in fifteen years.” He told me he’s proud he created something that’s so well loved, but “hindsight’s 20/20,” he said. “I wouldn’t do it now.” Read more about the waste of single cup coffee here.
Kumail and I are the cover models for Re:COM magazine! Check into it!
Dogfooding: when software designers force themselves to use what they’ve created, day in and day out, to diagnose problems with it. Wired thinks that Senators should do this too. I agree.
The American Kennel Club comes out in favor of gay rights, and sure, the letter made me cry. Sure it did. I’m a person.
A well-written essay on Lady Gaga’s persona and her need for us to believe she’s making art.
Now that we know she’s mentally ill and now just a famewhore, it’s time to leave Amanda Bynes alone. Mental illness causes people to provoke others, make asses of themselves, and generally destroy themselves from the inside out. We don’t have to help.
Eight years ago this week, one of my favorite shows ended, and concurrently, I moved out of North Carolina. My mother and sister had been watching the show religiously- I had taken some time off because the move had kept me so busy- so when they said goodbye to me as I moved to Chicago, this show, and the finale’s parallels to my own life, was on their minds. It was another year before I finally finished the show myself. This show made me understand the sadness of accepting one’s own losses, and the finale never fails to make me cry. Here’s a lovely retrospective on Six Feet Under.
And moving on, here’s a guncat, sent to me by Jake Weisman.
Joe Mande is trying to break Twitter, and it’s brilliant.
This video of a Mama panda meeting her baby one month after giving birth is so sweet and lovely that I’ve watched it five times.
I wrote this for Rookie about being a femme fatale in early 90s Internet bulletin boards.
Justin Guarini, that Joker-faced, curly haired crooner from American Idol, wrote a brutally honest blog post about his life post-Idol, and then took it down.
You guys, someone uncovered 500 new fairytales in Germany. I will not rest until I read them all.
This is a comic collabo between me and Esme at Rookie (I do the words, she creates the images) about how to deal when you’re caught masturbating.