Lemondrop of the Week
This week, I discuss how I moved from Chicago to New York with Kumail because his career required him to be here, and how that doesn’t make me any less of a feminist. Go read it! Hooray!
Ask Gynomite ponders intimacy
This April, I’m going to be facilitating what I hope to be the first of several lady conversations/workshops at Word Bookstore in Brooklyn! The series is called LoveSmarts, and this first one is all about exploring the horrible ideas that movies have taught us about love.
It’s going to be on Sunday, April 19th from 3-4ish, and if you’re interested in coming, please RSVP by emailing brooklynlovesmarts@gmail.com!! I’ll announce more details as it comes closer, but for now, there will be refreshments and fun times, and there will not be a person lecturing you. Here’s a taste:
Gynomite’s Emotional Assignment of the Day
Put it down.
That baggage? Put it the fuck down. Or at least start looking at it a little more closely.
Ask Gynomite!
Well Gynomite -
I am convinced that I met the man of my dreams. He is beautiful, sexy, smart, funny to be around, makes me laugh, and wants to take care of me.
I have never had a relationship when I wake up in the middle of the night and think “If I died tomorrow, it would honestly be ok, becasue the love I have with this man is so overpowering, intense, generous and loving – I would feel like life had a purpose.
This is the first time I felt this way – like I would give him everything I am, I own, my heart, the organs in my body – if any of it would help him.
I love him so very much -
What scares me….I am always afraid this is “too good to be true” and he will leave me. I had a string of bad men before him, and I fear he will want a younger and cuter model to replace me someday.
How do you trust someone so completely?
I am drunk – but it is still a valid question.
Thanks Gyno
Ask Gynomite!
Ok, so here’s a question for you. My boyfriend of three years and I have lived together for a little over a year, and our home is just miserable. We fight all the time, we don’t treat each other like we’re special, and things seem to just be falling apart. It’s hard to feel attractive to someone who sees you in zit cream every night. I’m contemplating moving out in an effort to save our relationship. Do you think this is a good idea? Does this ever work out?
This is a really tough decision to make in a relationship and I don’t envy you. No matter what decision you make, it’s going to hurt. And before I admire you on being willing to take a societal “step back” in order to help your relationship, let me first ask you if you actually do want to stay in the relationship.
In case you missed it….
Here’s a youtube clip of Kumail on SNL!!! Get it before it’s taken down, and then watch it on Hulu!!
*UPDATE*- Ok, so the powers that be already took the clip down, and it’s not on Hulu yet. If you want to scour the Internet yourself, the sketch, I believe, is called New York Times, and it’s about reporters being reassigned to Alaska. Get out there and find it!!
*UPDATE UPDATE*- Ok, ssssh, but if you go to this article about the “controversy” of the incest line, you can see the sketch! Just don’t tell anyone!
Hey, what are you doing Saturday night?
You know what you should be doing?
Watching the love of my life Kumail’s debut on Saturday Night Live!!!
I’m not kidding! They called him in two days ago to play an Indian reporter, and he’s been in rehearsals all day. Tune in tomorrow night to watch the sketch about reporters, and bampsh! There he’ll be!
Ask Gynomite!
I’m a normal mid-20s guy living in NYC who, after years of just hooking up with girls, wants to actually settle down and date a girl seriously, but weird things just keep happening. The girl I’m interested in now lives in another city and only visits NYC, and we’ve been talking a lot on the phone, and I really really really like her. But I hate the fact that she doesn’t live here. The girl I was interested in before her was great, and lived near me, but was in a long distance relationship. And on and on. What am I doing wrong?
I feel like there are a lot of unknowns to this question that could tip things tremendously in a different direction, but from the information I have in front of me, lucky you, I can actually tell you what you’re doing wrong.
Gynomite’s Emotional Assignment of the Day
Today’s assignment: call someone and tell them how much you care about them.
Note: I don’t know if this will become a new feature or not, but we’re giving it a try today.
Ask Gynomite!
Gynomite, I have trust issues, and it’s really hindering my dating these days. I go on dates and everything goes fine, but I’m always waiting for the guy to screw me over, and it ends up ruining things. It sucks.
